I learned something a long time ago in the corporate world. One of the clearest signs that you may be in trouble is surprisingly simple: people stop asking for your opinion.
That may sound insignificant, but it isn’t. If people once came to you for your judgment, experience, ideas, or perspective and suddenly stop doing so, something has probably changed. It doesn’t necessarily mean you are about to be fired. There may be a reorganization, a change in leadership, or a change in your responsibilities. But if you notice several changes occurring at the same time, it is probably worth paying attention.
Over the years, I have seen a number of signs that can indicate an employee is no longer viewed as part of the organization’s future. None of these, by itself, proves that termination is coming. Taken together, however, they can be a pretty good reason to start asking some questions.
1. People stop asking for your opinion
This is the one I learned first. You used to be asked what you thought. Your supervisor sought your advice. Coworkers wanted your perspective. You were included in conversations because someone valued what you brought to the table.
Then, gradually, that stops.
Decisions are made without you. Meetings occur without you. People who once sought your judgment no longer seem interested in it. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have become a bad employee, but it can mean that confidence in your judgment has declined. If you notice it happening, don’t simply assume everyone else has suddenly become stupid. Ask yourself whether something about your performance, judgment, relationships, or reliability has contributed to the change.
2. Your responsibilities begin disappearing
Another warning sign is when pieces of your job start moving somewhere else.
A project you normally handle is reassigned. A responsibility you have had for years is given to someone else. You discover that somebody else is now making decisions you used to make. Sometimes there is a perfectly legitimate organizational reason for this. But if responsibilities keep disappearing without a clear explanation, it is reasonable to ask what is happening.
One of the worst things you can do is pretend you haven’t noticed. Ask your supervisor directly whether your role is changing and, if it is, what you need to do to remain an important part of the organization.
3. You are excluded from meetings you used to attend
Meetings can tell you a great deal about your standing in an organization.
If you have traditionally been included in meetings involving your responsibilities, your department, or decisions that affect your work, and you suddenly stop receiving invitations, pay attention. Again, there may be an innocent explanation. Organizations change and meeting attendance changes with them.
But when exclusion becomes a pattern, particularly when other people are being brought into conversations that used to include you, it is worth finding out why.
4. Your supervisor suddenly starts documenting everything
There is a difference between normal documentation and documentation that seems to appear overnight.
If your supervisor begins following every conversation with an email, putting performance expectations in writing, documenting deadlines, or keeping unusually detailed records of mistakes and missed commitments, something may have changed.
Documentation isn’t necessarily bad. In fact, good leaders should document important performance conversations. But if the documentation becomes noticeably more extensive and formal than it was before, you should take it seriously.
Rather than becoming defensive about the documentation, ask yourself a more useful question: What is being documented, and why?
5. Previously minor mistakes suddenly become significant
Everyone makes mistakes. The question is whether the organization believes your mistakes are isolated events or evidence of a larger problem.
You may notice that something you previously would have corrected and moved on from now generates a much more serious conversation. A missed deadline that once produced a reminder now produces a written warning. A communication mistake that once resulted in a quick correction is suddenly discussed as a performance issue.
That doesn’t automatically mean you are being treated unfairly. Sometimes the organization has simply reached the point where it can no longer overlook a recurring problem.
If that is what is happening, the answer isn’t to argue about whether today’s mistake was really that important. Look at the pattern.
6. You receive vague criticism that is difficult to correct
There are few things more frustrating than being told you need to demonstrate “better judgment,” “stronger leadership,” “more professionalism,” or “better communication” without being given specific examples.
Vague criticism can be a warning sign because it may indicate that your reputation has deteriorated beyond one particular incident. It can also mean that your supervisor knows something is wrong but hasn’t done a good job explaining it.
If you receive vague criticism, ask for specifics. What did I do? What should I have done differently? What does success look like? What would you like me to change?
Those questions turn a vague conversation into something you can actually work with.
7. Someone else starts learning your job
This one can get your attention quickly.
A coworker begins attending your meetings. Someone starts learning your systems. Another employee is suddenly copied on your communications or introduced to relationships you have traditionally managed.
There are plenty of legitimate reasons for cross-training. Good organizations should not allow critical knowledge to reside with only one person. But if someone appears to be learning virtually everything about your job while your own responsibilities are simultaneously shrinking, you should probably ask what is going on.
Don’t confront the other employee. Talk to your supervisor.
8. Your access or authority starts disappearing
You may find that you no longer have the same authority to approve things, make decisions, access information, or represent the organization.
Sometimes that is part of a legitimate restructuring. Sometimes it is an indication that confidence in you has declined.
The important thing is to distinguish between the two. If your authority has changed, ask why. If there is something you need to improve, ask what it is. You cannot correct a problem that nobody has explained to you.
9. Your supervisor stops talking about your future
This can be one of the quieter signs.
Good organizations generally talk with valued employees about what comes next. Future projects, additional responsibilities, professional development, opportunities, new assignments, and long-term goals are part of normal leadership conversations.
If those conversations suddenly disappear, especially after years of having them, I would pay attention.
Again, don’t jump to the conclusion that you are being fired. Instead, ask your supervisor where they see your role going. The answer may tell you more than you expected.
10. The language about you changes
Sometimes you can hear trouble coming in the words people use.
You may begin hearing things such as “fit,” “alignment,” “expectations,” “trust,” “communication,” “concerns,” or “professionalism.” None of these words is inherently threatening. They can be legitimate parts of an ordinary performance discussion.
But if the language changes at the same time that your responsibilities are shrinking, you are being excluded from meetings, your work is being documented, and someone else is learning your job, you should probably stop assuming that everything is fine.
So what do you do if you recognize yourself in these signs?
First, don’t panic. I didn’t write this article so readers could freak out.
Recognizing one or even several of these signs does not mean you are going to be fired. Organizations change. Leaders change. Jobs change. Sometimes an employee simply misreads what is happening.
But don’t ignore the signs either.
The best thing you can do is have a direct conversation with your supervisor while you still have an opportunity to influence the situation. You might say something as simple as, “I’ve noticed that some of my responsibilities have changed and that I’m not being included in some of the conversations I used to be part of. Is there something about my performance or my role that I need to understand?”
That takes courage, but it also demonstrates something important. You are paying attention, you are willing to hear difficult information, and you are willing to do something about it.
If the problem is performance, ask what specifically needs to change. If the problem is communication, change how you communicate. If the problem is reliability, become more reliable. If the problem is judgment, slow down and seek input before making important decisions. If you have damaged relationships, start repairing them.
And if you have made a mistake, own it.
One of the least productive things an employee can do when their job is in jeopardy is spend all of their energy explaining why the problem wasn’t really their fault. There may be circumstances that contributed to what happened, but excuses rarely rebuild confidence.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is, “I understand what I did wrong. Here’s what I’m going to do differently.”
Then do it.
I learned this lesson personally
There was a period in my own life when some important relationships were falling apart. My first response was to blame the other people involved. I could see what they had done, what they had said, and how I believed they had contributed to the downfall of those relationships.
Then I realized I was asking the wrong question.
Instead of asking, “What did they do to cause this?” I needed to ask myself, “What did I do to contribute to the downfall of the relationship?”
That was a much harder question.
I knew that if I didn’t figure that out, I would eventually meet other people, develop new relationships, and, without making any personal changes, find myself right back in the same position a couple of years later. I refused to do that to other people, and I certainly refused to do it to myself.
That experience taught me something I have carried into my leadership work ever since. Introspection, the willingness to see ourselves as others see us, is a critical leadership skill.
It isn’t easy. Most of us can see other people’s shortcomings much more clearly than we see our own. But if the same problems keep appearing in our relationships, our work, or our careers, eventually we have to consider the possibility that we are contributing to the pattern.
That doesn’t mean accepting blame for everything that goes wrong. Relationships are complicated, and other people have responsibilities too. It means being willing to examine our own part honestly.
That same principle applies when you think you may be about to lose your job.
Before deciding that your supervisor is unreasonable, your coworkers are jealous, the organization is political, or everyone else is the problem, stop and ask yourself a harder question: “What have I done to contribute to this situation?”
You may not like the answer. But if you can find it, you have something you can work on.
Redemption is possible, but it requires change
If you have made mistakes or damaged your reputation, redemption at work usually doesn’t come from one great conversation. It comes from consistent behavior after the conversation.
You rebuild trust by doing what you say you will do, meeting commitments, communicating before problems become surprises, accepting responsibility, and making it easier for the people around you to depend on you.
If you have damaged a relationship, repair it. If you have lost credibility, earn it back. If your judgment has been questioned, demonstrate better judgment. If you have developed a reputation for being difficult, don’t simply complain that people misunderstand you. Look carefully at your behavior and determine whether there is something you need to change.
And give it time.
One good week doesn’t erase a year of poor performance. One sincere apology doesn’t automatically restore trust. People need to see that the change is real and that it will last.
Better yet, prevent the problem
The best time to address these problems is before someone starts preparing to replace you.
Stay connected to the people you serve. Know what your supervisor expects from you. Ask for feedback before the formal performance review. Don’t let small problems become recurring problems. If you make a mistake, acknowledge it and correct it. If you don’t understand something, ask. If you see a problem developing, tell someone before it becomes a crisis.
Most importantly, don’t assume that doing your job is enough. Organizations are made up of relationships, expectations, responsibilities, and results. People need to know that they can depend on you.
And periodically, take an honest look at yourself.
Ask yourself how the people around you probably experience you. Are you someone they trust? Do they seek your opinion? Do you keep your commitments? Do you accept responsibility? Do people feel comfortable bringing you bad news? Do you make problems better or worse?
Those questions can be uncomfortable, but they can also prevent a much more uncomfortable conversation later.
Keep your options open
At the same time, I strongly recommend that you always – ALWAYS! – have two job opportunities in your back pocket.
You may never take them. In fact, you may stay exactly where you are for years. But knowing that you have options changes the way you approach your career. You don’t have to feel trapped. You don’t have to believe that your current employer controls your future.
Your career belongs to you.
Having two opportunities in your back pocket doesn’t mean you should constantly be looking for a way out or threatening your employer with another offer. It means you are paying attention to your professional value, maintaining relationships, keeping your skills current, and understanding what opportunities exist beyond your current position.
There is something powerful about knowing that you have choices. Knowing you have options and that you are in charge of your career path cannot be underestimated.
I have also learned that good leaders have a responsibility here. If an employee is no longer part of the organization’s future, don’t make that person decode a series of clues. Tell them what the problem is. Give them a reasonable opportunity to correct it when correction is possible. Be specific about expectations. If the organization has decided that the employee cannot change, be honest about that too.
And, since we seek to be Purposeful Adults: As an esteemed colleague once noted: “Firing an employee is as close as you’ll ever get to killing another human being.” (Thanks, Ozzie!) When you fire someone you take away a part of their identity, their income, their work relationships, their schedule and may even disrupt their family relationships. That must be taken seriously. How seriously? If you’re going to fire someone, do it yourself. Don’t be a coward by having some staffer from HR or elsewhere do the difficult things for you. You OWE that human being the human connection.
People deserve personal respect, dignity, honesty, and clarity.
If you are an employee and you recognize several of these warning signs, don’t spend the next six months wondering what everyone is thinking. Find out. You may discover that your interpretation is wrong. You may discover that there is a problem that can be fixed. Or you may discover that the organization has already decided your future.
Any of those answers is better than guessing.
Sometimes the best career move you can make is to correct the problem that is putting your job at risk. Sometimes it is to recognize that the relationship has changed and begin preparing for what comes next.
But before you point the finger at everyone else, look in the mirror.
And while you’re looking in that mirror, make sure you are also looking ahead.
The warning signs aren’t just something to watch for. They are opportunities to intervene while there is still time.
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